FAQ
Below are a list of questions I am often asked in regards to My sessions. Click to see the relevant answers.
❤️🔥 I offer in person & virtual play ❤️🔥
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~ Virtual BDSM Sessions ~
Submit your application and read more here. You can book virtual play with Me either through video or phone call.
~ Niteflirt ~
I also offer phone chat via Niteflirt. You should know that I do not use Niteflirt regularly at the moment. You’re best off booking a virtual session in the form of a call, or calling Me at My fanclub on Loyalfans.
Don’t bother contacting Me via Sextpanther. I don’t use it anymore but haven’t chosen to delete My profile.
I am looking for slaves who fill specific needs in My life:
- Building things for Me such as dungeon furniture for example
- Tech — website issues I need assistance with, SEO, and other things that come up
- Researching Specs for Me (I hate this with a passion!)
- BDSM Research
- Writing Interesting Articles that complement My philosophy & work as Mistress Pomf (if you write a good one I will publish it. I want more articles written by slaves)
- Nude Figure Modeling (you must be fit for this!)
Being My personal slave does not mean I will fulfill your kink desires. If that happens it happens. But if you’re seeking play under the guise of “servitude” you are going to be let down. Pay for a session if you want a session.
Being a personal slave to Me means true unconditional servitude. Detail My car, fix something broken thing for Me just because you can and you want to wholeheartedly.
I do not live under the thumb of conditional love, an affliction of humanity at its current stage of evolution. In My life I volunteer freely when I can, simply because there is a need for My service, I have the ability to give it, and I want to do so. My servitude is not built from a system of checks and balances, and I choose lifestyle slaves who aspire to live and give unconditionally as well. Giving and receiving unconditionally is not easy. It is a practice, and can be triggering. But with consistent practice it can also become nourishing and enlightening.
Booking a Session with Mistress Pomf
I accept submissives and slaves of all levels of experience. I’m happy to work with all races, ethnicities, genders, sexual orientations, and the neurodiverse. Honesty, good communication, and consent are the foundations of healthy BDSM & kink experiences, it helps Me tailor a session to your needs and abilities.
I sure will, so long as you meet My qualifications. You must be respectful with great manners. I must enjoy your fetish and be amused by it. Trust Me, you’ll be having the best time if I do. Your request cannot violate My boundaries. Check My limits listed in FAQ.
I enjoy "uncommon" and niche interests. It's a pleasure to curate experiences overall, but especially when an interest is niche. There are many reasons why I love curating, but one is that I know how difficult to impossible it can be to receive a sacred sexual experience one may desire. I say sacred as BDSM is a sacred practice of Sexual Shadow Work. It integrates parts of oneself that one has been conditioned to shame.
I will not cater to reciting entire scenes with lines, unless you want to tribute and give Me enough advance prep time for such a thing. But normally I improvise a scene, and it’s more fun for Me to do so. If your request is long to read and/or intricate to curate, I will charge more to honor the time and energy spent with it.
Many respectful fetishists get the privilege of serving Me. Keep in mind that I expect fetishists to lower their ego and submit to the BDSM power exchange. Power exchange is always involved to some degree in a session with Me as the dominatrix in charge.
Are you willing to let go into the power of your submission? If so, you will have a genuine experience both slaves and fetishists dream of having in the presence of a skilled dominant woman such as Myself. You can read the many testimonials written from both slaves and fetishists who've sessioned with Me in My Guestbook and blogs.
Oh yes! I have over a decade of experience playing with couples.
Furthermore, I love it when a partner has the confidence to send their submissive partner to Me to be professionally dominated. Some even pick Me out for their partner!
I think it's wonderful when couples cultivate enough trust and communication to honor needs they may not be able to fulfill for one another. I find that when I grant a session of this nature to a couple they are able to focus on the needs they do fulfill for one another like no one else can. I value helping facilitate the expansion of connection.
Apply to serve Me by filling out the booking form here. Obvious ignorance of My limits or details listed on those pages will result in rejection of your application. When applying, be specific about your availability. Be clear about any experiences you are wishing to achieve as My submissive. If you have physical limitations, health/medical issues, be honest. Doing so helps Me craft a session around your limitations.
Consultation Call: Once I receive a deposit for a session I always give a 5-10 minute phone consultation call to new submissives. I enjoy giving consult calls. They’re both an opportunity to get to know each other before a session as well as discuss our fantasies together. Giving others the opportunity to express oneself verbally is important to Me, as text can only go so far. Furthermore, I have a number of people catfishing Me online nowadays and duping prospective submissives out of their money. Only so much is within My control over this unfortunately.
I will only contact your phone for our scheduled consult call. The other times when your number will be necessary as a means of contact is on the day of our session when you need to call/text Me confirming our meeting as well as when you need to contact Me so I can grant you access into the session location.
Please keep in mind that once you acquire My number, I will always redirect you back to email as a means of communication. The amount of messenger apps, emails systems, and other means of communication is increasing, and while there are advantages to this, a great disadvantage is the confusion and disorganization that can ensue when streams of communication happen in multiple places and we can’t easily retrieve conversations.
Lastly, consult calls are mandatory. I decline applicants who try to avoid them by refusing to provide their number, etc. If you’re stressed out about providing your number to Me, we aren’t off to a good start. BDSM requires trust. If you’re worried to give Me your number yet are asking Me to take control over your body and mind as a Dominant, I suggest you take a serious look at your values.
I am a professional who takes the privacy of both Myself and My submissives very seriously. I also take My safety seriously.
If you want to chat to Me outside of the consultation call you are welcome to call Me on Niteflirt. You’re also welcome to follow Me on social media at Twitter.
If you have not served me before ➡️
I will not grant you a session last minute. My protocol outlined in this email is in place for a reason. All new subs must fill out My booking application.
I will likely grant you one, given I have the availability. As always, a deposit is required. This is My protocol for all bookings. I never drop this protocol even with My most beloved long term subs.
If you've missed My travels but are still dreaming of sessioning with Me, send your application anyway. I will keep it on file and contact you if I plan to visit again.
If you don't see your city included in My tour schedule, you're welcome to apply for a Fly Me To you booking. The requirements for such are a minimum 3 hour booking plus all travel expenses paid for Me (My own flight, hotel, transport to name a few).
As of 2026, I am no longer touring apart from rare, yet pre-planned visits to Florida and NYC. I do not see Myself returning to the heavy touring I did throughout My career. So, if you see Me promoting a visit to your city you should apply and be ready to deposit in advance, as My visit will be a rarity.
If you want to book with Me during those visits you must book well in advance and be ready to submit your 50% deposit.
Location & Travel
I am based in Colorado, where I grant private sessions in Denver, the surrounding areas, and select mountain towns. I am also available to travel for appointments throughout Colorado and beyond. For locations requiring additional travel, a higher tribute may apply to accommodate the time and expenses involved.
To Clear Up Any Confusion…
I've toured extensively throughout My career, sometimes as frequently as every six weeks! Since 2017, I've had the pleasure of granting sessions internationally in London, Manchester, Tokyo, and Kyoto, as well as across the United States in NYC, South Florida, Boston, Washington, DC, Seattle, San Diego, and many cities in between!
For many years, I maintained regular touring routes. These days, however, I am much more selective about where and when I travel.
In this era of My life, the universe has called Me to live in Colorado. Having previously called both NYC and South Florida home, I understand why you may still associate Me with those places.
If you've served Me in another city, or have been patiently waiting for My return, I encourage you to subscribe to My newsletter. It's where I'll share upcoming tour dates, booking opportunities, new writings, and other invitations into My world. 💌
You'll find the signup form in the footer below. You can also check My current booking locations there. ⬇️
But Mistress, what about NYC & South Florida?!
Fear not, darling! NYC and South Florida will always hold a special place in My heart, having called both home in the past, with Miami being My birthplace. I intend to continue visiting, although My trips may be shorter and less frequent than they once were.
South Florida: I am currently accepting booking requests for December 22–23, 2026.
New York City: Christmastime in New York? My heart pines for it! I've made something of a tradition of spending time in NYC during the holiday season, and I'd love to return again this year. I am currently accepting booking requests for December 2026, so if you'd like to serve Me during My visit, I encourage you to apply now. Be sure to provide Me with your full availability for the month in your application, as your interest and flexibility will help Me determine My travel dates.
For the most current travel announcements and booking availability, please refer to the footer below, as My plans may change before this FAQ is updated.
For these limited visits, appointments of three hours or longer will receive priority consideration. Advance booking is strongly encouraged, as My availability will be limited.
I look forward to seeing familiar faces and welcoming new ones into My presence.
Yes. Tribute is subject to an increase depending upon location. Outcalls are subject to even tighter screening. I may request to see your ID.
FYI, I grant outcalls all over the state of Colorado and enjoy sessions outside of Denver.
Tribute
Tribute varies depending upon location, but typically starts at $700 for 1.5 hours for the majority of types of sessions booked as in-calls.
Please know that the minimum time booked with Me is 1.5 hours. At this stage in My craft I do not grant 1 hour bookings. 90 mins is a sweet spot for going *at least* deep enough to where I want to bring you.
Outcalls and specialty sessions such as couples, sploshing, and full toilet training are available at an additional charge. Full toilet training sessions are an additional $150 for first timers, $100 if you've previously submitted to Me. For full toilet training sessions I must receive your deposit at least 2 days prior to our appointment. Full toilet sessions are granted only in the morning from 9-11 AM. This has been a speciality of Mine for years and because of My expertise I am highly sought after as a toilet slave trainer. Thus, My session slots are limited, so I suggest booking ASAP to assure your position beneath Me.
I charge extra on specific services such as couple sessions, hardsports, and sploshing. Use of My toys, restraints, and other services are included in My hourly rate. If you request Me to use My toys in a means that would erode or cause them to be contaminated I will indicate that you must bring your own to session or otherwise tribute Me the cost of the toy plus the time and energy spent acquiring it.
I take a 50% deposit for all bookings.
Be prepared to pay in Bitcoin, Venmo, or Cashapp.
You will bring the remaining tribute with you to O/our session in cash neatly prepared in a white envelope. Though not necessary, tips are of course always appreciated.
If you want to tribute in another form of cryptocurrency let Me know. I may accept it. I'll probably also be into receiving LINK, ETH, and SOL from you.
Bitcoin is My favorite form of payment. Other deposit methods have proven inferior, while this method is secure. By following it you help us remain confidential, never reveling personal information or ties to sex work. If you’re new to cryptocurrency, I encourage you to read over the information in the highlighted blog link and expand your learning via other online resources. Once you get past the initial verification, it’s simple. If you can operate a smartphone you can send a Bitcoin deposit.
No. The only discounts I ever do are surprise promos. If you can’t afford a session right now, I suggest saving up. Chances are you’ll cherish the experience we share even more once you do.
NO. Paypal hates sex workers. Many sex workers have had their accounts banned. I will not risk getting banned from using them when they are a major means for many business transactions in the world. If you’re unwilling to send Me a deposit via the discreet methods I give you it indicates you do not respect the privacy or both of us.
A deposit let’s Me know you are serious about serving Me and you intend to show up for the session. And if you don’t, I still get paid something for the trouble of going out of My way to correspond, plan, and meet you. No one likes to have their time and energy wasted.
Cancellation Policy
If you need to cancel, you must do so 24 hours before our session or your deposit will be lost. Unless I cancel, a deposit is non-refundable.
If you cancel with a few days notice, I will honor your deposit and give you 4 months to rebook.
Tours/Bookings Outside of Colorado : If you're booking Me while on tour, I will honor your deposit and give you the remaining time of My tour visit to re-book. You must reschedule during the same tour. In some cases, I may have a future visit already planned in your location. If this is the case, I may allow you to re-book for that next visit. However, this may not always be a suitable option that I can grace you with.
General Questions for a Session from Mistress Pomf
With the exception of NYC, all of My current play spaces have free parking. If we are sessioning at a hotel that does charge for it, I will communicate this to you in advance. While I typically choose hotels that do not have paid parking, many more are charging for it in these days.
In regards to NYC, you will have to use your own discretion and find parking at a garage or someplace else.
The time will cut into your session time. I cannot waive this tardiness as it would disrupt My schedule and the scheduling of the play spaces shared with other Mistresses.
My equipment is sanitized thoroughly with boiling techniques and antibacterial products. I am exceptionally hygienic and sincerely care about our health and safety.
Yes, of course!
As indicated earlier, we will have a consultation call prior to session. When you arrive at My playspace I will initiate a pre-play conversation. If you want to begin our scene without a pre-play chat we can discuss this option during our consult call.
Aftercare is always given unless you prefer not to have it.
Yes! I prefer you use Red for “full stop” on an activity and Yellow for “ease off” on an activity. There are also nonverbal safe words I can teach you to use in a case where you cannot speak such as during breathplay. I take consent and safe words very seriously.
I stop, check in, and guide the session in another direction we both feel good going in (unless you decide to end all together). Respecting safe words allows us to explore safely.
I do not 99% of the time. The 1% when I might play without safe words is extremely rare.
I get this request a lot. It's an in depth topic on ethics longer than what I've written below.
If you're new to Me and request a no safe word session I will probably not take your application seriously. Requesting a no safe word session leads Me to believe you have no consideration for your mental and physical health to put all your trust in Me when we have never played together, nonetheless met.
D/s pairs who play without safe words in a healthy way are rare. And most of the time it appears they aren't using safe words when they still have them but aren't using them in a scene. The ability to play healthily without using safe words requires a level of intimacy and vulnerability from both the sub and the Domme. This level requires healthy communication before and after the scene. Players who play without safe words often have been practicing together for a long time and know each other on another level. And with that being said, people's boundaries change.
Yes, and it depends. I used to say yes to many CNC sessions, however not all submissives I deem suitable for playing with this way. CNC is best when we have already trained together and have gained some trust.
With that being said, I enjoy CNC scenes. Click here for even more information on consensual non-consent. Click on this article for more insight into safe words. The article discusses fantasies where a partner says stop but wants to have the scene continue consensually.
It is in both our interests to be discreet. What happens in our sessions as well as your identity are confidential. As a professional dominatrix it is very important to respect your privacy. I will never call you unsolicited. My primary means of communication is email, and the only time we will ever communicate via phone is in our consult call and on the day of session when you need to get in touch with Me.
Furthermore, I will never take photographs or videos without your expressed permission. I ask you to be likewise discreet and respect My privacy. Any photos you may see on My Twitter feed or website have been consented to be used.
What Activities Will You Indulge in With Me?
you can find a list of activities I offer (and activities I don't) in My Fetishes page. Anything not listed as a limit, you may inquire about.
No. Not under any circumstances.
No. If I ever did, it would be at My discretion, and not because you have asked for it. If you ask, I will say no. If you pressure or disobey Me, I will dismiss you from My play-space.
I do clothed facesitting and ass worship. I do so in thongs, latex, lingerie, or dirty panties (for My scent fetishists). Methods of worship do not involve oral sex. All methods involve your submission to Me. You can read My erotica on Facesitting here.
Toilet Training Sessions
I expect a deposit paid in advance of all sessions. Full toilet training sessions are an additional $150 for first timers, $100 if you've previously submitted to Me.
For full toilet training sessions I must receive your deposit at least 2 days prior to our appointment.
Full toilet sessions are granted only in the morning from 8-11 AM.
This has been a speciality of Mine for years and because of My expertise I am highly sought after as a toilet slave trainer. Thus, My session slots are limited, so I suggest booking ASAP to assure your position beneath Me.
I take pride in My natural skills to provide the best toilet training for My toilets slaves. There is a clear reason why I do this session at the same time every day. Regularity. In regards to amount: I will not grant sessions to anyone who places demands on Me to produce large quantities. My body fluctuates and so does the amounts and aromas it gives off. I am a Goddess, not a machine. I have let go of toilet slaves who disrespected Me with such demands before. I only allow those who show respect and gratitude for what I provide to serve Me.
I make watersports clips and toilet fantasy clips. I do not make scat clips. I will not be creating any as this would take away from the taboo element I so enjoy. Only slaves who serve in person as My toilet get to explore FTT beneath Me.
With that being said, you can find one of My top selling clips Save Our Marriage and Eat My… here.
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